Showing posts with label domestic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label domestic. Show all posts

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Thoughts as We Celebrate

Today is a big day - not only is it Ty's 3 month birthday and the open house celebrating his official adoption into our family (pictures to come for both!) but it is also National Adoption Day. We did not plan it all to be on the same day but what a happy coincidence! In light of the latter, I would like to share some statistics.

Did you know? (italicized info from here - thanks, Michelle S.)

- Every 15 SECONDS, another child becomes an AIDS orphan in Africa. 1
- Every DAY 5,760 more children become orphans.
- Every YEAR 2,102,400 more children become orphans (in Africa alone).
- 143,000,000 2 Orphans in the world today spend an average of 10 years 3 in an orphanage or foster home.
- Approximately 250,000 children are adopted annually, but…
- Every YEAR 14,050,000 children still grow up as orphans and AGE OUT 4 of the system
- Every DAY 38,493 children AGE OUT.
- Every 2.2 SECONDS, another orphan child AGES OUT with no family to belong to and no place to call home.
- In Ukraine and Russia 10% -15% of children who age out of an orphanage commit suicide before age 18. 60% of the girls are lured into prostitution. 70% of the boys become hardened criminals. 5
- Many of these children accept job offers that ultimately result in their being sold as slaves. Millions of girls are sex slaves today, simply because they were unfortunate enough to grow up as orphans.

Reliable statistics are difficult to find, even the sources often list only estimates, and street children are rarely included. But even if these figures are exaggerated by double, it is still an unacceptable tragedy that over a Million children would still become orphans every year, and every year 7 Million children would still grow to adulthood as orphans with no one to belong to and no place to call home. They are totally vulnerable and easily fall prey to predators and slave recruiters.

1. http://www.habitatforhumanity.org.uk/current_appeal.htm
2. According to figures from the United Nations. These statistics include children in the American Foster Care system
3. This is an estimate. Infants may stay as long as 18 years while children who become orphans at an older age stay a shorter time.
4. To AGE OUT means to grow to the age where a child is forced to leave the orphanage or foster home with no place to call home.
5. http://www.hopefororphansoftheworld.org/


There are so many more children waiting to be adopted than families willing to adopt them (though perhaps not infants). The number of children in U.S. foster care alone needing homes is staggering, plus there is a need for families to open their lives and homes to minority and special-needs children (all races, regardless of physical and mental health, are often considered special needs if they are older). There are also countless precious little children in orphanages and foster care around the world! While adoption can take awhile, it's often due to the required paperwork, homestudy, education, and legal requirements - not always due to lack of available children.

Andrew serves on the board of a local agency and they are working hard to advocate the adoption of minority children. When we've talked to local agencies and attorneys, we have been told many times that if we are open to race, placement is usually quick (often 3- 6 months) - for a newborn. We've also looked on our state's waiting children list and read what these children would like - a pet, a family to take them to church, to be adopted with their siblings etc. - they long for a family and it absolutely breaks my heart. And while adopting an older child is not what God has called us to at this point, we are open to His leading.

There are children waiting in every state and there are not enough families. I've also heard this statistic (though don't have the originating source) - if 7% of Christians would adopt one child, there would be no more orphans.

We will spend today celebrating adoption and marveling at God's gracious gifts to our family. We praise God for adopting us as His children and for His love for orphans everywhere. And we will pray earnestly for children still waiting - born and yet to be born - for families to love them and raise them. This is my heart, my passion, my desire. To God Be The Glory!

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing… even as He chose us…In love He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of His will, to the praise of His glorious grace….
Ephesians 1:3-6

Saturday, November 08, 2008

Sinking In

I think the reality of Titus becoming forever ours is sinking in slowly - I started getting teary in the store as I was ordering the cake for our open house celebration next weekend. As I contemplated the wording for it, I completely choked up. We couldn't imagine him not being a permanent member of our family but there was this nagging knowledge that things were not final. I can't get over how blessed and happy I am - if you had told me three years ago when we were starting the process for Calvin and Patrick that we would have 3 boys in less than two years, I wouldn't have believed you! What a wonderful blessing!

On another note, I do NOT like the cold...

Friday, November 07, 2008

How All the Boys Feel...

...about the events of yesterday! :)

I think it's fair to say that they're happy and love each other - don't you think? :)

Thursday, November 06, 2008

A VERY, VERY BIG DAY!

We are so, so excited to announce that this morning around 10:30 a.m., Titus Paul became forever ours. We have copies of the official adoption decree and we couldn't be happier. I've been smiling ever since. We opted to keep the date quiet for the same reasons that we waited to post pictures of our precious son.

It was such a pleasant surprise that we were able to finalize so quickly. With the unknowns surrounding his birth, I've been so anxious for this day to come. While we trusted that it would and it had already happened in our hearts, I think we are breathing a sigh of relief. I feel exhausted beyond belief - I think emotional exhaustion. It has been a whirlwind few months and I'm so glad that Ty is officially, legally, and forever a part of our family.

What a beautiful day. We were a little emotional at the hearing - hard to believe, right? :) Having had the privilege of being in court now for all three of our children, there is nothing like hearing the wonderful words granting your children a permanent, legal place in your family. We feel so blessed. We could never in a million years have chosen a more perfect way for our family to be formed or more perfect children for us. God has been so gracious to our family.

So please rejoice with us today! We are SO happy!

Friday, August 29, 2008

Home Again, Home Again, Jiggity Jig :)

We arrived home around 1 this afternoon to a whirlwind of activity. Ty went to the doctor at 2 - he had a great check-up and his weight is up to 6 lbs. 13 oz.! Hooray for him! I went to the chiropractor around 5 and then we all headed to my parents for my youngest brother's birthday. We decided it would be a great chance for everyone to meet Titus and to enjoy a meal and family time.

Tomorrow we have set aside as a day just for the 5 of us. We are really looking forward to reconnecting as a family. The boys are thrilled that we are home and ecstatic about being big brothers. We are just enjoying all three of our boys - we feel so incredibly blessed! We continue to pray that all will work out and we will be able to finalize Ty's adoption in the coming months.

Thank you all for your prayers, encouragement, notes, comments, and for following along on our amazing journey. You have blessed us more than we can express. And while our journey is not over, the blog will begin to go back to it's more eclectic topics. :)

Yay!!!

We're Going Home!!!!

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Still Here

We are still here. Today has been one of the toughest of the last week - it's a long story. We have some hope that we will be allowed to return home tomorrow. Meanwhile, Ty gets cuter by the day! It's hard to believe he will be two weeks tomorrow! He is such a sweetie and as we've said before, totally worth all the frustrations. We never dreamed that IN would be so difficult. The guy that needs to approve us will be gone until Wednesday after tomorrow so we hope and pray that he does not leave us hanging for another week.

We are weary. We have been blessed by the family here - they have not only encouraged us when we've been down but our hostess has gone to bat for us and worked hard to figure out what needs to happen. We are thankful for them and for this time with Titus.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Pictures & Good News!

Well, what normally takes "weeks" here will happen tomorrow! We are so thankful! It's been so exciting to see God's amazing work. We received the phone call this afternoon and we were told that this was definitely a God-thing and we couldn't agree more! We also were told that it was no problem for C to sign and she didn't mind - we were glad. We don't know exactly when we will be home but it looks like sooner rather than later. :) I don't think this would have felt long or even as stressful if it weren't for our wonderful sons at home. We miss them like crazy and thus our antsy-ness (yes, I'm making up words :))!!!

SO, here are some pictures (there will also be an album on facebook):

Prayer

Please PRAY TODAY! There is some more paperwork being signed and filed. We are hopeful this will enable us to return home sooner rather than later but here is still the "weeks" possibility. Pray that we will find favor in the sight of the court here and the processors in IN. These are not laws in the legal sense - they are policies. Also, please pray for C - she has to sign something else this morning and we feel awful that she has to do that. From our understanding, IN is the only state that requires this particular thing. You better believe we will be writing some letters when we get home... :)

We will be going out today - yay! We are planning to go to the mall, Starbucks (to upload pictures - okay, and for a mocha :)), and to lunch - just the 3 of us! Yeah, I'm excited. :) We haven't gotten out much. :)

Monday, August 25, 2008

Rides to Remember

I feel like venting about policies, competency and other such issues but alas I shall restrain myself... We are pretty much no closer to resolution (at least that we can tell). IN is being very difficult for unknown reasons.

So for now, I will tell you about two elevator experiences. In our short stay at the hospital I had two rather interesting rides. :)

The first occurred when we got on an elevator with several others before realizing there was a vomiting kid on board. He stood in the corner gagging and tossing his cookies into a cup - loudly. It took everything in me not to puke myself. Note to self: if child is sick, ask others to take a different elevator - do not hold the door for them and wait for them to enter. Poor kid.

The second happened a couple of days later. I was by myself and got onto an elevator with several hospital employees. They began discussing the fact that a couple of them had given blood moments before. One of the ladies was feeling woozy and then she slumped over. Thankfully there were several people on board. I held the old elevator doors open (they were bound and determined to squash me) and asked for a wheelchair (before I realized that she had passed out cold). A man came and helped carry her out of the elevator and laid her on the floor. He started calling for smelling salts (it felt like a movie by this point). I made sure she had the help she needed (four people or so) and quietly closed the elevator door to ascend to my floor - by myself. I will admit, I hesitated to ride the elevator with anyone after that - I looked at them thoroughly to ensure optimal health. :)

We are working on keeping positive here. I know in the realm of time, this will be such a short amount of time but right now it's just frustrating. Not knowing is perhaps the most frustrating. We will probably go to a Starbucks tonight or tomorrow to get wireless internet so we can post pictures!

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Rest

We've enjoyed a restful day today. We attended church this morning with our gracious hosts and took naps this afternoon. We were able to have dinner with my sister and brother-in-law since they were camping not too far away this weekend. It's been a refreshing day which was much needed.

We are hopeful that things can be quickly sorted out tomorrow - though we expected to be here possibly two weeks, we had definitely been given hope that we would be home much sooner. Even on Friday, there were thoughts that we would be approved to return home that afternoon. So hearing that it may be another 10 or more days was a pretty tough blow yesterday. We will keep you updated and as always, we appreciate the prayers and thoughts.

Every time I look at this little boy, I am amazed. He is wonderful and I cherish these early days of getting to know him. We feel so incredibly blessed. Yesterday it was beautiful to see our older boys so instantly in love with this little guy. I planned to post a few pictures here from that but haven't had access to the camera and internet at the same time. So stay tuned for them - yes, we have decided to post some of those pictures. :) We are such a happy family - completely enamored with the newest member.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Update

We are hearing that we may be here for over another week. Please pray - I cannot even tell you how discouraging this is. On good news, our boys came for a visit with my mom and brother today! It has done our hearts good but also makes our hearts ache that we are apart. The boys loved meeting Ty!! So sweet.

Friday, August 22, 2008

Big Prayer Request

All the paperwork has been approved here but the office in our state is saying that they don't have everything they need. It's Friday. So the long and short of it is that we can't go home, we don't know what they need, and we don't know when we will be able to go home - could be a early next week or it could be much longer. We are so discouraged and down today. Please pray that everything will be quickly sorted out on Monday. It's been another bump in the road but Ty is completely worth it. We miss our other boys so much. So some tears are shed today - we don't have a lot of answers so please just pray.

Homesick

We are still here. :) Hanging in there. We are really missing our boys at home. Paperwork is definitely under way and we hope to get approval to return home soon. Ty is doing well. He is pretty constipated at the moment. So you can pray for that. Our hosts are so kind and we've had such a nice time here but we are ready for home! Sorry this is pretty uninteresting...just wanted to give a quick update.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Doctor's Report

We just got back from the doctor and things look good! He gained 2 oz. which is right on track. He cooperated beautifully but was a little dramatic - grunting everytime the doctor touched him. :)

I'm hoping to put up an album on facebook soon - we can't access anything here very well so it will probably be next week. If you aren't already my facebook friend - feel free to ask. :)

And if you still haven't received a picture and stats - please e-mail me again or leave a comment with an e-mail address or way to get in contact with you! I've been working on it...

Slept Well

Ty slept very well last night - I had to wake him up for his feedings. He woke up at 7:30a.m. and was ready for some interaction. :) He has been getting the hiccups a few times a day - poor guy. We go to the doctor today and hope he is gaining weight! He was down 8 oz. by the time we left the hospital which was within normal but we are hoping he is more now. He is still spitting just a little but nothing like before so we are thankful for that. He is a doll!

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Report

Last night went well overall, I was tired this morning, though. :) He was a little restless (due to sleeping so much during the day) but wasn't cranky. I am a light sleeper when kiddos are nearby so I was awake a lot! At 5, he decided it was definitely time to wake up. I stayed up with him and fed him until about 6 (and enjoyed the time) and then passed him off to Andrew while I rested for awhile. He has been more wakeful today and I took a nap this afternoon while he napped and hung out with Andrew. Not having to think about meals or housekeeping has been wonderful - we are able to focus on Ty.

Please contine to pray for things to work out. And please pray that our paperwork will be processed quickly and well and enable us to return home soon! Thank you all for your continued support and encouragement - you have no idea how much you have blessed us in the midst of difficulty and tremendous joy.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Settled

I'm typing one-handed so please forgive any mistakes. :) We are doing well! We are settled into the home of a lovely family who will be taking care of us for most of the rest of our time here. Ty is wonderful and very sleepy. I'm afraid he may have his nights and days mixed up - he has slept most all of the day today. Oh well. He's beautiful and I just can't get enough of him. :) If you haven't received an e-mail, I'm so sorry. I've been trying to get them out to everyone but it may take me a couple of days. Our internet access may be a little less frequent but I will try to keep up! Thank you for the prayers - we are so touched and encouraged. Please don't stop! We still have some time that the birthmom could change her mind and we still have time for the adoption to be final. The past few days have been incredibly emotional and I think we are both exhausted. We are so thankful for the wonderful nurses at the hospital - saying goodbye today was tough (even though we were ready to go!). As we adjust to a newborn's schedule, we would really appreciate your prayers. We want to take the best care of him that we possibly can! He is a blessing. More tomorrow.